Are you an Energy Sucking Vampire?

Have you ever returned home in the evening from whatever the world has thrown at you and exhaled a sigh of relief? Home…. the place where you can shut the door, put your feet up, and re-charge your flagging batteries.

We’ve all met ESV’s during the course of our lifetime. They are found in families, schools, workplaces, down your street, and just about anywhere. They are easy to spot, but not so easy to put our hands up to!

I believe there is a bit of an ESV in all of us to some extent, e.g.

Energy sucking vampires:

  • Tend to go straight to the worst-case scenario rather than thinking about a positive outcome.
  • Are self-absorbed “woe is me” kind of people who claim nothing good ever happens to them! Despite their many blessings, they always think they are worse off than everyone else.
  • Have little interest about the concerns or interests of others. They are so caught up in their own self-absorbed bubble, that they are blinded towards the needs of others.
  • Enjoy the company of like-minded people. They seem to draw other negative people to them like flies to ointment.

“Misery enjoys company.”

  • Crave being the centre of attention and tend to gossip and speak badly of others when they don’t get their own way (or when others disagree with them).
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  • Constantly complain and thrive on making you feel just as bad as they feel. They blame everyone and everything for their ills and misfortunes.
  • Have a distorted view of people and the world. They tend to major on bad things and ignore anything positive. This leads them to have a skewed impression of the world.
  • ESV’s tend to focus on others’ faults–including their own–rather than their good points.
  • Lack positivity, warmth and love. ESV’s tend to be difficult to get close to because “they protect themselves” from what they perceive as a harsh and challenging world by the way they act.

…. but that’s not to say they cannot change!

We all have choices

I believe it is very easy to slip into the skin of being an ESV under duress. What one of us can say we are not guilty of at least one (or more) of the above at some point in our lives?

which is why I absolutely believe “positivity is a choice!

When things go wrong or we find ourselves facing difficult times….. we have a choice!  We can “choose to be miserable”, or we can “choose to be thankful”.

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Making the change from negative to positive begins in our “thought-life”.

Negative thinking bears bad fruit in your life. If you give place to negative thoughts, you will eventually become a negative person.[1]

“For as a man [woman] thinks in their heart, so is he [she].”

Proverbs 23:7

What a sobering thought!

If your heart and mind are filled with negative thinking, you will most likely voice what is in your heart and mind”. [2]

When we are responding in a negative manner (whether because of challenging times, or whether because of something else), we can CHOOSE to replace these thoughts with thoughts which are good and pure.

“….whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.”

Philippians 4:8
It’s difficult to remain negative when you bombard your mind with things which are right, pure, lovely and admirable.

Next time you find negativity creeping into your life in whatever shape or form –remember, you have a choice. Choose well.

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[1] [2] Stephanie Reck, “What Does the Bible Say about Negative Thinking?”

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